tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7365993903547880770.comments2019-11-15T12:28:30.733+05:30No Gender Inequality!Indian Womanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11140968140207205727noreply@blogger.comBlogger187125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7365993903547880770.post-1270571958404593672010-08-26T16:56:14.520+05:302010-08-26T16:56:14.520+05:30Empowering women is an aim that the whole of India...Empowering women is an aim that the whole of India wishes to achieve. Gender Empowerment is also one of the Millennium Development Goals of United Nations Millennium Campaign.<br />Globally more than 173 Million people stood up against poverty in 2009, a Guinness World Record!<br />I joined the campaign at www.facebook.com/unmcampaignINDIA.<br />and http://twitter.com/unmcampaignIND <br />It is Time for You to STAND UP AGAINST POVERTY NOW!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7365993903547880770.post-59028195981149054292010-03-09T21:09:55.346+05:302010-03-09T21:09:55.346+05:30'I have the greatest heroine.... It is my Moth...'I have the greatest heroine.... It is my Mother.' This line is like a tribute to the great Mother! <br /><br />You too are great, who has recognised what she has done to you. God bless you all.Sandhyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06478831923010850316noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7365993903547880770.post-5074983802206177262009-12-19T15:55:50.001+05:302009-12-19T15:55:50.001+05:30Glad to be here !
Kudos to your efforts.Glad to be here !<br /><br />Kudos to your efforts.Tulikahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07301354863058973461noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7365993903547880770.post-33956006500509168062009-12-03T15:18:04.681+05:302009-12-03T15:18:04.681+05:30There are two posts by a blogger-friend of mine, N...There are two posts by a blogger-friend of mine, Neha who covered the legal aspects of domestic violence, and measures against them. I think people will find them useful ~<br /><a href="http://nehasilam.blogspot.com/2009/10/domestic-violence-part-1-legal-aspect.html" rel="nofollow">Domestic Violence Part 1 - Legal Aspect</a> and <a href="http://nehasilam.blogspot.com/2009/10/domestic-violence-part-2-facts-and.html" rel="nofollow">Domestic Violence Part 2 - Facts and Measures</a>Guriahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17745027299909279888noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7365993903547880770.post-51886275804222507562009-10-30T02:27:34.812+05:302009-10-30T02:27:34.812+05:30To new beginning. :)
Hope for everybody's sup...To new beginning. :)<br /><br />Hope for everybody's support.Solilohttp://mesoliloquy.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7365993903547880770.post-82236750786164385472009-10-30T00:12:41.139+05:302009-10-30T00:12:41.139+05:30:) So here's to new beginnings!!!:) So here's to new beginnings!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7365993903547880770.post-50666706404666842422009-10-27T15:55:29.687+05:302009-10-27T15:55:29.687+05:30Excellent blog!!
Would like to crosspost it on ou...Excellent blog!!<br /><br />Would like to crosspost it on our blog : http://itsafreeworld.wordpress.com <br /><br />with due credits ofc :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7365993903547880770.post-67992099612761686672009-10-26T12:27:03.885+05:302009-10-26T12:27:03.885+05:30There are many men who needs to be liberated from ...There are many men who needs to be liberated from their social conditioning...nd even education has not helped them.. even if the woman is strong, it is a very tough fight she has to put in.. <br /><br />but if the woman is educated she has a better chance of fighting it out... my heart goes out to all those who are not in a position to put up a fight..<br /><br />thanks for the post...Happy Kittenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14406399936808407736noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7365993903547880770.post-2219812167148455102009-10-26T10:35:37.831+05:302009-10-26T10:35:37.831+05:30@ Anrosh- You are bang on. And also he thinks he&#...@ Anrosh- You are bang on. And also he thinks he's showing his 'machoism' by treating women 'the way they have to be treated'. He once told my mother that all of his brothers-in-law are under the control of their wives and he would never let that happen to him!!!!<br />He suffers from severe inferiority complex though he shows it by acting 'superior'. <br />I want to help the child, not him. Until he realises it himself and wants to change for the better, its of no use. He doesn't even listen to people who want to help him. <br />Not in bombay, no. But thankyou! :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7365993903547880770.post-25590549472325726682009-10-26T10:35:28.434+05:302009-10-26T10:35:28.434+05:30@ Anrosh- You are bang on. And also he thinks he&#...@ Anrosh- You are bang on. And also he thinks he's showing his 'machoism' by treating women 'the way they have to be treated'. He once told my mother that all of his brothers-in-law are under the control of their wives and he would never let that happen to him!!!!<br />He suffers from severe inferiority complex though he shows it by acting 'superior'. <br />I want to help the child, not him. Until he realises it himself and wants to change for the better, its of no use. He doesn't even listen to people who want to help him. <br />Not in bombay, no. But thankyou! :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7365993903547880770.post-3564864971711331702009-10-26T10:28:18.562+05:302009-10-26T10:28:18.562+05:30@Solilo- Ironically, she's studying to be a ps...@Solilo- Ironically, she's studying to be a psychologist! She badly wants to get away from there. Financial independence is her priority right now! <br />Oh yes, his actions scream depression. The thing is, everyone seems to know the cause but him. That's the problem. He thinks he's being 'right, smart, logical' etc by treating his daughter that way. He fears she might go the 'wrong' way! How DUMB!!!! I think instead of worrying about her, he need to get himself checked!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7365993903547880770.post-46958473557239499502009-10-26T03:05:25.796+05:302009-10-26T03:05:25.796+05:30Anonymous, " spending time in darkness "...Anonymous, " spending time in darkness " is also a sign of depression. i know that in india men find it very difficult to understand that they need professional help. But seems like this the best way to go. If you are in Bombay I could suggest.Anroshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16723150055204555588noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7365993903547880770.post-36228145064312114722009-10-25T22:17:55.455+05:302009-10-25T22:17:55.455+05:30I hope this will help women come out of their sile...I hope this will help women come out of their silent suffering, and to get protection from those that perpetrate these crimes against them! kudos for creating awareness...and bringing light ,I hope to those in need of help!!Indyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09800985691534527496noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7365993903547880770.post-53615275439545225152009-10-25T22:04:46.107+05:302009-10-25T22:04:46.107+05:30@Oorja, Hitchwriter, Lakshmi: Yes! even though Oct...@Oorja, Hitchwriter, Lakshmi: Yes! even though October is DV awareness month. We can continue to spread the word.<br /><br />@Smitha: That was so nice of your mother to ensure the safety of domestic help. In many cases we just need to let these women know that they have an option to say No.<br /><br />@Ani_aset: I have only posted that helplines that I know works well. Do spread the word about Bell Bajao. <br /><br />@Anonymous: I agree with what IHM and Anrosh said below. This kind of behaviour is not done. The man is already hurting so many people. Why are people still keeping mum? <br /><br />@Smita: In most cases, women put up with abuse because there is a child involved. If she walks out then she will be received with taunts. Either she needs to involve an older member of family to solve the problem or she needs to take a strict step. No child should be forced to witness daily abuse in the family. <br /><br />@DVhelp: Yes! We need to. <br /><br />@Gauri & IHM: Bell bajao is a good campaign now gaining momentum. It needs to be publicized more. <br /><br />@Deeps: A family where parents beat up children is abusive and I am sure in such a family it would be common for adults to yell at each other. <br /><br />@Anonymous: You are doing great to be there for your friend. Give her encouragement to study well and get a job. Being financially independent is very important esp. in such cases. She should talk to her mother and make her understand that this is not the way a family should be. If the father is abusive and rude to everyone then there must be more serious problem like may be he is bipolar or suffering from some trauma. <br /><br />@Anju Gandhi: This emotional battery is so common. It is as bad as physical abuse even though the scars aren’t visible. What these adults don’t realize is that, children from such home grow up to be insecure with low self-esteem and in future treat their spouse the same way.Solilohttp://mesoliloquy.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7365993903547880770.post-67362308425023270072009-10-25T20:11:01.239+05:302009-10-25T20:11:01.239+05:30Very relevant topic and points. Could not agree mo...Very relevant topic and points. Could not agree more. We should all try and do what we can.Lakshmihttp://inevitablenow.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7365993903547880770.post-34887801247209354052009-10-25T18:09:06.573+05:302009-10-25T18:09:06.573+05:30great effort
hats off to you for writing on this ...great effort <br />hats off to you for writing on this topic<br />domestic violence is something which is prevalent in all the strats of the society.specially domestic violence not in the form of physical abuse but through words, gesture is very common in the so called educated class of society.insulting the wife through some comment, demotivating her, discouraging her, humiliating her in fronts of outsiders while overtly showing physical love is very common<br />i know of a husband who used to be very demonstrative in front of outsiders, hug his wife, hold her hand but used to literally demean her with his comments. like " agar mein nahi hota to tum kuch nahi kar sakti thi, you are not capable for doing any thing. etc.<br />thus insulting the wife, or children or passing comments on them all amounts to it.and best part is people dont realise that they are being abused emotionally and also the public thinks that the husband is so loving<br />I will be ready to help any one and I am there with any body who is ready to fight against thisanjugandhihttp://anjugandhi.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7365993903547880770.post-51192866029604240562009-10-25T13:38:41.558+05:302009-10-25T13:38:41.558+05:30@ Indian homemaker- He has ZERO realtionship with ...@ Indian homemaker- He has ZERO realtionship with his own brothers and parents. People avoid him simple because he is extremely rude and orders others to behave according to his wishes, even if it is his MIL. <br />My sister had written an emotional letter for his wedding anniversary this year about how guilty she feels complaining about him to us and how sorry she was. She also had mentioned that she wants to help him solve and improve their relationship. She told me he simply read it in the dark (as he loves spending time in darkness) and never mentioned how he felt. The next morning he ignored her.<br />She's more than just a 16yr old. SHe's wayy too matured and understands things her mum doesn't.<br />Yes I am there for her. But I want to do more than just be there. <br />No comments on the mother. Its high time she knew despite earning and living 10min away from her mother's home.<br />Thankyou for the help. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7365993903547880770.post-65681730905136246022009-10-25T13:32:16.424+05:302009-10-25T13:32:16.424+05:30@ Anrosh- Yes, the father has very low self esteem...@ Anrosh- Yes, the father has very low self esteem. He is in a good govt job and has no prob there as he himself has mentioned. Even if there is a prob, the abuse has been happening since my sister was a child. I found his behaviour unacceptable each time I met him. Belittling his daughter in front of auto drivers or pointedly ignoring his wife in front of all made me study his behaviour and read enough about such issues. But the young girl already knows and is helpless. She has openly admitted he needs help and so does she. <br />She asked me the other day: "What right does my father have to treat women like this?"<br />I want to help her since I strongly feel for such issues.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7365993903547880770.post-65901278755959567112009-10-25T12:26:20.373+05:302009-10-25T12:26:20.373+05:30oh goodness,I typed a real long comment and I dont...oh goodness,I typed a real long comment and I dont know where it went..it didnt even give a moderation alert.<br /><br />anyway,all I wanted to say was the post was a relevant one.Abuse is not to be confined to merely women,as you rightly put.Its as much an abuse when meted out to men,children,aged,rich,poor,etc.Deepshttp://deepsspeakingup.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7365993903547880770.post-4763760153091631112009-10-25T12:15:38.779+05:302009-10-25T12:15:38.779+05:30A relevant post,Sols.
As you rightly put,we have ...A relevant post,Sols.<br /><br />As you rightly put,we have a tendency of associating domestic abuse to only women being beaten up.I agree an abuse meted out to anyone,be it women,men,children,aged,rich,poor,or of any strata needs to be condemned.<br /><br />I know of a family where the parents had built up such high expectations of their son that they started beating up and using abusive language to get him to study well.They didnt even realize how negatively their actions were affecting the child.As luck would have it,his performance not only got worse with each passing day,he began to abuse his parents in return.<br /><br />And this too,falls under domestic abuse.Here the child is not only witnessing abuse but he is adopting it to get away from it.<br /><br />Today,his parents have given up on him and I feel,to an extent they fear his violent rebellion for which they cant blame anyone but themselves.<br /><br />Yes we need to let those in need of help,know that they have the option of saying NO and they will be heard.Deepshttp://deepsspeakingup.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7365993903547880770.post-45785282538493357102009-10-25T09:35:10.227+05:302009-10-25T09:35:10.227+05:30@Anonymous - Is there an older relative they can s...@Anonymous - Is there an older relative they can seek help from? Someone the father trusts and respects... even a close friend of his might be able to speak to him. They should discuss this with the father - the teenager could write a letter to her father... sixteen is really young and this must be hell for her.<br /><br />Do be there for her, she needs that badly, a friend and a shoulder to cry upon is the only good thing at such times.<br /><br />About the mother not supporting her, she is probably brainwashed into believing that she is at fault and he works for them all, she has managed to be ill (or something like that) ... this is really , really sad..Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7365993903547880770.post-25020090806614639122009-10-25T09:28:05.282+05:302009-10-25T09:28:05.282+05:30Very relevant post Solilo.
verbal abuse is even ...Very relevant post Solilo. <br /><br />verbal abuse is even more common and difficult to fight back. Children from abusive families are also at risk of becoming abusers when they grow up.<br /><br />Unfortunately most women think this happens and even hold themselves responsible for the abuse.<br /><br />Bell Bajao Campaign needs to be publicized much more in India, I feel this would go a long way towards changing attitudes towards domestic violence.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7365993903547880770.post-12407511262306845272009-10-25T02:43:32.297+05:302009-10-25T02:43:32.297+05:30anonymous, looks like the father needs help. Peopl...anonymous, looks like the father needs help. People who have a low sense of esteem ( may be because somebody is badgering him at work ) he is throwing it back to his family members.<br /><br />if this father continues this way the daughter will grow up an emotionally abused woman and will have a disturb21ing personality that will impact her in many ways.Anroshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16723150055204555588noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7365993903547880770.post-49633543482928791062009-10-25T01:22:47.939+05:302009-10-25T01:22:47.939+05:30we need more and more such initiatives.. very info...we need more and more such initiatives.. very informative post . you can even embed a video of the bell bajao campaign from youtube along with the links you have provided.Gauri Gharpurehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09887888023298949657noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7365993903547880770.post-10270829503133665962009-10-24T21:18:47.077+05:302009-10-24T21:18:47.077+05:30We need to keep the message going, Whilst October ...We need to keep the message going, Whilst October is DV awareness month, we need to keep speading the word through November and beyond!DVhelphttp://www.domestic-violence-and-abuse.co.uk/noreply@blogger.com